Openness overload: Why your employees don't need to know everything about you
A boss's openness can make the workplace more human, but trust is built through actions, not what they reveal about themselves. Employees may feel obliged to listen or reciprocate with a disclosure of their own, which can create an awkward dynamic.
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A boss's openness can be beneficial, but it's essential to consider the impact on employees. Trust is built through actions, not what's shared about personal life. Employees may feel pressured to listen or respond, creating an awkward dynamic.
Imagine you're at work and your boss shares something personal with you. You might feel like you have to listen or respond, even if you don't want to. This can make things awkward between you and your boss. It's like having a friend share a secret with you, but you're not really friends, and you're not sure how to react.
Analysis
Workplace Boundaries in the Age of Social Media
In today's digital age, workplace boundaries no longer end at the office door. Colleagues can peer into one another's lives through social media, making it challenging for leaders to maintain a professional boundary. A pertinent question for me as the boss of a creative company is whether I should let my employees follow me on Instagram.
The Importance of Clarity and Consistency
Employees need clarity about what is expected of them and consistency, especially when decisions are difficult. They need to know that good work will be recognized, mistakes will be treated fairly, and that their leaders won't throw them under the bus when things go wrong. Do they need to know about the delectable La Vina cheesecake their department head ate on holiday, or their supervisor's take on why Obsession might be the definitive Gen Z horror film? Probably not.
The Role of Openness in Building Trust
Vulnerability can make the workplace more human, but trust is ultimately built through what leaders do, not what they reveal about themselves. A boss who admits to making a mistake may make it safer for others to do the same. A leader who speaks honestly about a difficult period can reassure employees that it's okay to ask for help before a problem becomes unmanageable. Sharing about personal life can also reduce some of the distance created by hierarchy. It reminds employees that the person making decisions has insecurities, pressures, and bad days, too.
When Openness Becomes a Burden
Oversharing isn't just about what is being said, but it's also about who is hearing it. When a friend shares something personal with me, we engage as equals. I can respond candidly and even disagree. But there's an added layer of awkwardness when the oversharer is your boss. There might be an obligation to listen, offer reassurance, or reciprocate with a disclosure of their own. What feels like an honest exchange to the boss may therefore carry an unspoken pressure for the employee.
Key points
- Leaders should maintain a professional boundary between themselves and employees.
- Trust is built through actions, not what's shared about personal life.
- Employees may feel pressured to listen or respond to a boss's personal disclosure.
- A balance between openness and professionalism is key to a healthy work environment.
If leaders can find a balance between being open and maintaining a professional boundary, it can lead to a more human and trusting work environment. Employees may feel more comfortable sharing their own struggles and concerns, leading to a more supportive and collaborative team.
If leaders overstep their boundaries and overshare personal information, it can create an uncomfortable and unprofessional work environment. Employees may feel pressured to respond or reciprocate, leading to awkward dynamics and potential conflicts.
